“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
I was going to make this an article about self-care. Things to do when you’re feeling down. Ways to get through difficult situations. How to cope with stress. Right now so many people, myself included, are feeling scared, angry, discouraged, lost, disconnected (insert your own despondent adjective here) but I wasn’t sure I should “go there” in this blog. I thought perhaps I should keep it light and neutral…
Then I thought again.
That’s not how I roll, that’s not how we at Honest roll and that’s not the attitude or behavior that will help anyone during this difficult time. I’m revealing my underbelly to the chaos. No more apathy or skirting issues, let’s talk about the big, scary elephant in the room.
This election was jarring. It revealed a division that many of us were unaware of. It hurled ice-water at all of our faces, pried our eyes open like clockwork orange and said “Now can you see it?” The world felt a little unstable before, now it feels downright scary. I know many of you, myself included, are very fearful of the future. You feel betrayed. You feel vulnerable. You feel powerless. You have every right to feel this way.
We don’t know what is going to happen. We don’t know the extent of the damage that could occur. There is nothing I can say that is going to change the state we find ourselves in. There is, however, a little something I’d like to share that might help a heavy heart.
I’ve experienced some tragedies in my life. One in particular hit me so hard I quite literally didn’t think I could go on. My life was never going to be the same and all I wanted was my old life back, the one that I thought came with a happy ending. But alas, what was done was done.
As time passed I discovered something. Something I never would have known, had I not experienced what I did. I learned that change, no matter how unwelcome, no matter how earth-shattering always has the potential for unbelievable and profound growth.
We occasionally find ourselves in intense, monumental circumstances that change the course of our lives. They are usually very painful and rip you right apart, but from there (and only from there) we can emerge with a clear new perspective and strength we didn’t realize we possessed. Suddenly a new path has opened up before us.
I have witnessed the first buds of growth already. So many people have tapped into their inner Maya Angelou/Martin Luther King Jr/ Henry David Thoreau (insert your own extraordinary, hope-giving figure here). I’ve read and listened to the words of friends and strangers who’ve shared some of the most impassioned and poignant insights I’ve ever heard. I’ve witnessed so many people feeling all their emotions deeply and sharing them openly. I’ve seen people lifting each other up and using their voices. This week alone, under the sprinkling of hate that the media makes sure to publicize, I’ve see more unity, connectedness and brother/sisterhood than I’ve probably witnessed in my entire life.
There is so much more love than hate. People are turning pain into power and struggle into strength. Watch for it and you’ll see it too.
For anyone who is ever feeling unsafe or unloved, know that you are ALL welcome in our little Honest community. We try to uphold an example of love, diversity, acceptance and growth, and there are many others out there like us. Let’s keep on loving each other, supporting each other and standing up for each other. Let’s commit to that today and continue to grow every day from here on out.
I want to leave you with some tips to mend a healing heart::
- Show up for your regular workouts to help keep that stress, depression and anxiety at bay
- Designate 20 minutes a day as “worry minutes” and try to live in the moment outside of that window
- Talk about how you feel openly and if you aren’t ready yet, write it all down
- Reach out to a counselor or therapist if you need more support and encourage others to do the same
- Feel all your feelings, take as long as you need to feel them and tell anyone who doesn’t accept that to shove it
- Surround yourselves with supportive people
- Stick up for anyone who needs it
- Take action, donate and volunteer! (Here is a list of wonderful organizations you can choose from)
- Be good to each other and listen to each other (perhaps it’s time to try discussing instead of debating)
We are all in this together and we each have the opportunity to grow stronger and more powerful than we ever could have before.
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